I have a lot of thoughts roaming around in my head today that I just wanted to put down in writing, so I am putting them here.
My sister in law is divorcing my Brother, since she announced it on facebook yesterday I feel more free to talk about it more openly. There have been a lot of comments made about the effects of this decision and the right of others to make judgements on the matter, after all marriage is between the couple (and the Lord.)
I agree that there is nothing more sacred.
I also think it is foolish and childish to believe or pretend that the effects of a divorce are not felt by more than just the couple. It is hard to ignore and set aside the heartbreak I have felt through the whole process. I have been supportive and listened through it all, but at the end of the day it all still hurts.
Family, whether by law or blood, still have to choose to love each other, respect each other, be loyal to one another, and when someone in my family chooses not to do these things it is up to me to make judgements, to protect myself and my family from the negative effects.
To all of our family, we love you. We are invested in your lives and the lives of your children. We care about you and pray for you. Please know that we have respect for the lives that you lead, and for the choices you make. However you have come into our lives, you have made an impact, and when you leave don't be naive enough to think that it doesn't change everything.
As a family I think we should have enough respect for each other to acknowledge each others grief during this hard time.
I love my Brother and his kids. I love my Sister in law. I pray we will be comforted during this time and that my brother can feel the love and prayers we send his way.
You are not alone. You are very loved.